One
of my friends was in a relationship with a woman for about two years. He wanted to get married, but she never gave
any indication that was what she wanted.
(As a matter of fact, she was
still harboring hurt and resentment from a previous relationship). She had a habit of texting him a lot - even
when he had expressed that texting was not really a preferred method of
communication. I told him the thing that
I learned about people is that no matter what, when they value you and the
relationship they have with you, they will make an effort to sustain the
relationship and will not find it robbery to communicate with you and talk to
you in a real conversation. I suggested
that he not respond to her text one day just to see what happens. When he received a text from her, he didn’t
respond. She sent another text the same
day and he still didn’t respond. A day
passed. A week passed. Then two months passed. When I talked to him, he said that in his heart
he knew what was going to happen when he didn’t respond to her text, but he
just had to make sure that he was prepared for the hurt and the anger that
would follow when she wouldn’t make the effort to pick up the telephone and actually
call or stop by the house to see why he didn’t respond to the text.
While
I am not an expert on relationships, I didn’t have to be one to know how this
situation was going to turn out based on experience. My friend tells me all the time, “You forced
me to do it.” And I laugh every time he
says it. My response is always, “No, I
didn’t force you to do it. I suggested
you do it, so that you could see that you’re better than that. You’re better than a half-hearted
effort. You needed to move on so that
whoever God wanted you to be with could get to you.”
Every
now and then, you’ll have to let go of some things to get God’s best. It starts
with knowing you’re God’s best.
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
"He Cares for You" - Thompson Community Singers
God knows what's best for us...trust Him!
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